Row For James Rowing the Atlantic Ocean for Mental Health Awareness

James and Harry Wentworth-Stanley drove to their father’s house for a Christmas party. Harry feel asleep in the car. That day would be the last time Harry would see his older brother.

After arriving, Harry went to grab beers for his brother and himself. While he was rummaging in the kitchen, James went to their father’s safe, removed a shotgun and walked outside.

James Wentworth-Stanley committed suicide Dec. 15, 2006. He was 21 years old.

“I think about him every single day,” said Harry, a 27-year-old chartered surveyor in London. “It doesn’t feel like ten years have passed. … That day completely knocked us all off-guard as a family.

“One minute we had a relatively perfect family. … I always thought we were so lucky. We had a really tight, close-knit family. We never in a million years saw it coming.”

James, a student at Newcastle University, had been depressed and out of sorts following a minor operation to correct a varicocele, an abnormal enlargement of the veins draining one of his testicles. He went to a National Health Service walk-in center looking for help. Instead, he was sent to an A&E (the UK equivalent of an emergency room). There, he sat in the waiting room. He eventually left after not being seen to.

“That was his cry for help,” Harry said. “It was heartbreaking knowing he had gone looking for help and that he was failed by the system. There’s a real problem that needs addressing there.”

James Wentworth-Stanley (L) and brother Harry | © Row For James
James Wentworth-Stanley (L) and brother Harry | © Row For James

The James Wentworth-Stanley Memorial Fund was created in James’ legacy in an effort to erase the stigma surrounding mental health issues, and to raise awareness and provide aid to those suffering from depression and suicidal thoughts, particularly among men in the United Kingdom. According to the fund’s website, suicide is the greatest cause of death among young men (ages 15-35) in the UK.

In an effort to increase available and proper help to those suffering from depression or having suicidal thoughts, the charity plans to open walk-in crisis centers called James’ Place. The first one is set to open in Liverpool in 2017.

To help promote the fund, raise money and increase awareness regarding mental health, Harry and three friends will row 3,000 miles across the Atlantic Ocean in the 2016 Atlantic Challenge that begins Dec. 14.

The event, the creation of Sir Chay Blyth who rowed the Atlantic with John Ridgway in 1966, begins at the Canary Islands and ends in the Caribbean. Rowers can participate solo, in pairs or as teams of four.

Wentworth-Stanley will be participating with friends Sam Greenly, Toby Fenwicke-Clennell and Rory Buchanan as team Row For James.

“James was really outgoing and adventurous and had a wild spirit to him,” Harry said. “I wanted to find something he would have really loved himself. … I had my obvious reasons to take on this challenge because it was for my brother and the charity started in his memory. The other three guys are so invested in the cause for their own personal reasons and it shows how far reaching the cause is.”

Team Row For James will be crossing the Atlantic Ocean to help raise money for mental health | © Row For James
Team Row For James will be crossing the Atlantic Ocean to help raise money for mental health | © Row For James

While Harry and Co. aren’t professional rowers by any means, they’ve been hard at work in the gym and on the water the past 12-15 months preparing for this taxing physical and mental feat. Harry said relying on one another will be the biggest key.

“There will be low moments when we’re struggling but it’s having the other three guys there as support that will pull us through the challenge,” he said. “We will have to lean on each other, and it’s equally true in life. There’s only so much you can carry as an individual. If it was something James had been able to do — open up to me, the family or his friends — we wouldn’t be where we are.”

NOTE: This first appeared on Culture Trip

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